Perfectionism Makes Me Insane

Anne Lamott in Bird by Bird:

Perfectionism is the voice of the oppressor, the enemy of the people. It will keep you cramped and insane your whole life, and it is the main obstacle between you and a s****y first draft. I think perfectionism is based on the obsessive belief that if you run carefully enough, hitting each stepping-stone just right, you won’t have to die. The truth is that you will die anyway and that a lot of people who aren’t even looking at their feet are going to do a whole lot better than you, and have a lot more fun while they’re doing it.

Addicted to Distraction

Addicted to Distraction –

Compton’s 10 Commandments

  1. You have to give people a mission, a clear understanding of how to achieve that mission and a road map for choosing the appropriate steps for action
  2. Either serve the customer superbly or don’t even try.
  3. Change is not something that happens. It’s a way of life. It’s not a process, it’s a value. It’s not something you do, it engulfs you.
  4. How do you get the people who built the box to think outside it? You get new people.
  5. Forget outside consultants. They come in, make a mess, then walk away.
  6. Technology is never really the problem. The problem is how to use it effectively.
  7. The wrong answer rarely kills you. What it does is waste time. And time is an absolutely limited resource.
  8. The weak link in reengineering is will. It is a huge job and it is agonizingly, heartbreakingly tough.
  9. Once people catch on to reengineering, you can’t hold them down. It’s a lifetime venture.
  10. When I see somebody more radical than I am, I’ll know we’re getting somewhere.

Source:  Unknown.  I found a photocopy of this in one of my old folders and thought they were worth passing along. If you know the source, let me know so that I can cite it properly. ↩︎

Small Talk

Here’s a polite person’s trick, one that has never failed me. I will share it with you because I like and respect you, and it is clear to me that you’ll know how to apply it wisely: When you are at a party and are thrust into conversation with someone, see how long you can hold off before talking about what they do for a living. And when that painful lull arrives, be the master of it. I have come to revel in that agonizing first pause, because I know that I can push a conversation through. Just ask the other person what they do, and right after they tell you, say: “Wow. That sounds hard.